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All dressed up & no where to go

Admin
May 3, 2017
4 min read

Sometimes, I like to dress up just to sit around the house or go to the grocery store. Not because I always have to look good and put together but, because I love to get ready and do my hair and makeup for fun. Before I became a mom, I used to do my hair and makeup more often. Now, I don't always have the time to do my hair and makeup because I have to feed my kid and get him ready to go which leaves me only 10-15 minutes to get ready. Usually, I will just do concealer, some powder, mascara, fill in my brows and braid my hair then call it a day. Some days I remember to put earrings in and other days I forget. I don't mind going out with little or no make up. Sometimes I prefer to have a naked face and a ponytail. However, there is something about getting ready that makes a mom/woman feel good about herself.

Ever since I was a teenager I would always do my hair and makeup for no reason. I was grounded a lot so I would be in my room with my Ashlee Simpson CD on repeat, sit in front of my mirror and get dolled up. I would take advantage of every opportunity/family event to get all dressed up. I would always stand out because I would be over dressed and glammed up for the occasion. My grandma would always compliment my hair and makeup and commented on how fancy I looked. I love those memories and hold on to them. My older sister, Samantha, would call me to see what I was wearing/doing that way she could dress up with me. I loved that because then I wasn't the only one over dressed. Beauty has always been apart of me because it is an artistic outlet for me and I love creating outfits, makeup looks and hairstyles.

Since being a mom, that creative outlet has changed. I remind myself that it's important to still take time for myself. To take care of me and give myself those pampered beauty days. I don't spend as much time on beauty as I used to but, I make sure to add it into my weeks. Every week I will give myself a manicure (Whenever I go get my nails done, I ALWAYS end up redoing them because they don't do it the way I like. One perk from going to cosmetology school, you learn how to do your own manicures!). Usually the best time is to paint my nails is during nap time or when Patrick gets home that way I have time to let my nails dry. Also, I make sure to take care of my skin by doing a face mask/scrubs weekly or every other week. The best time for me to do a face mask is first thing in the morning or after I put Joshua down for bed and start my night time routine. Most face masks only stay on for about 10-15 min. Then I shower it off and get ready for bed. Lastly, my hair is something I LOVE to take care of the most. Making sure I keep up on my haircuts (I desperately need one, but I am so afraid to try someone new, I miss BETH! She is my friend/mentor/hairstylist in CA). Other than keeping up on my haircuts, I make sure to always have the products I need to keep my hair healthy and moisturized. I like to always change my hair color and do fun stuff but, with a baby on the way, I don't want to worry about having roots to color so I will leave it be until a few months after I have my daughter.

I feel pressure from todays world to always have make up on and my hair done to feel beautiful and put together. Especially as a mom, I feel like there are stereotypes to say oh life must be rough at home if she leaves the house with a blah outfit, no makeup and a messy bun. My life isn't rough at home because I look like that. My life is beautiful at home! I choose to not get all dressed up because I choose to spend more time with my kids then on myself. I don't want to throw Joshua in front of the TV for 2 hours while I get all dressed up just to run a few errands at the mall or wherever. I think it's important to check your heart. What is the reason you are getting all dressed up with no where to go? To take a good selfie to prove to others that you are beautiful? To make other people believe that life is all good because you look put together? Is it because you feel like you have to compete with other woman to feel better about yourself? Whatever the reason may be, I think that it's important to look at the intentions. I think it is a great outlet for a lot of women and there are so many talented women that do amazing looks! I just see women/moms getting lost within the beauty world thinking they have to look a certain way. It's nice to sit around the house with your make up done and hair styled all cute for no reason and your hubby comes home and compliments you and doesn't want to take his eyes of you because you look so beautiful. Honestly, sometimes thats why I do it, because I know that he loves the way I do my hair and makeup. I check my heart constantly so that I'm not doing these things because society expects me to but because its healthy to take care of yourself and be pampered at times. It doesn't take over my schedule and it doesn't interfere with my time with my son.

Moms sacrifice a lot of their time for their families. Cooking, grocery shopping, family laundry, putting kids down for naps, changing diapers, cleaning the house, making and going to doctor appointments, etc. I think it's okay to spend a little bit of time on yourself. Even if hair and makeup isn't your outlet, whatever it is, make time for it.